Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Growing without a dad is not easy take a look why

No one enjoys growing up without a dad and psychologists world over agree that a child needs both parents 

Here are a few example of some of the things people who have grown u without dads fight with Deadbeat parent is a word referring to parents of any gender who do not fulfill their parental responsibilities, especially when they evade court-ordered child support obligations or custody arrangements. Many, however, associate the term with men. Although there are some families that do benefit from a divorce, the vast majority of children within a family end up being hurt by the process. Here are some problems that only people brought up by single parents can only understand :

1. Single mothers are at times considered as women who cannot keep a family intact. 

They are always viewed as women who don't take life seriously hence their status.

2. They Think their father don't care about them

These days, the derogatory title comes with the attached connotations drawing to mind images of fathers who abandon responsibility to their kids and don’t care about them at all. That is not usually the case. 

3. They think they have a poor dad 

Most of the fathers lumped in as deadbeats are not dads unwilling to support their children — they are simply unable to afford the child support. 

4. Crime

Adolescents living in intact families are less likely to engage in delinquency than their peers living in non-intact families. Compared to peers in intact families, adolescents in single-parent families and stepfamilies were more likely to engage in delinquency. 

5. A need to belong 

Mums can help their sons be part of a church, sports team, club or other healthy "tribe" rather than leaving it up to them to find their own peer group. 

6. A distorted view of love, sex and trust. 

A mum needs to talk with her son about the difference between love and sex. A son needs to be reminded that he was conceived in love. Ask a male relative or other important male in the boy’s life to talk with him about sex and the emotional aspects of dating and relationships. 

7. Hungry for love. 

"Father hunger" often afflicts boys age one and two whose fathers are suddenly and permanently absent. Sleep disturbances, such as trouble falling asleep, nightmares, and night terrors frequently begin within one to three months after the father leaves home. 

8. Violent rejection 

Kids who exhibited violent behavior at school were 11 times as likely not to live with their fathers and six times as likely to have parents who were not married. Boys from families with absent fathers are at higher risk for violent behavior than boys from intact families. 

9. Poor grades and performance 

Children who end up in a single parent family as the result of the death of one parent do not have the same poor outcomes as children raised by single parents due to a divorce or out of wedlock birth. 

10. Crisis of identity

A boy’s search for self starts with his father. Without a dad, most boys have a harder time knowing who they are and where they came from. As men, they often have difficulty taking initiative and demonstrating leadership. 

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